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hello, welcome back to the fit soul podcast, the youtube group where channel wherever you're consuming this content. Okay, listen, I have the craziest story that I'm going to share with you today. That just happened this weekend, and I might not should share this in a public manner, but I'm just going to because it was too good not to share. And overall, though, I want to help you with some mindset things, and the title of this podcast is called how to Stop Shame Spirals and Rewire Stinking Thinking, so if you have some struggle with stinking thinking and you want some help with that, you're going to get it today. Welcome back to the podcast.

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My name is Amy Ramsey and I am a certified high performance coach, life and health coach, and it's my passion to see you walk worthy of your calling in fullness, to live fully alive with freedom and liberty that God wants you to have on this earth, and when we have stinking thinking, it shuts that down. When there's cycles and spiral downward of shame and self-doubt and insecurity those things, they really hold us back. They hold us back from moving forward in our lives in every capacity. So let me tell you what happened the other day. It was at the time I'm recording this. It was Memorial Day weekend and one thing that my husband and I like to do it doesn't matter where we are. Where we are, we just happened to be down on the coast, at the beach, and we love to a couple of things we love to ride our bikes. So we were out bike riding and we love to go through open houses or houses under construction, and I know I'm not alone in that. So we were out riding our bikes and we stumbled upon this big, beautiful house that was under construction. We did what we've done I don't know how many times before and walk right through it. Something in that whole situation told me that maybe we shouldn't be in there. Uh, there wasn't like a trespassing no trespassing sign on the door, but there was. It was all cleaned up inside and the air conditioner was actually running. They actually were able to have that air conditioner running. Everything was clean. The plans were laid out on a table. Like that felt intrusive.

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Anyway, we went ahead. We were walking through this house. Oh my gosh, it was so beautiful. It was three stories high. It was spectacular. We made our way all the way up to the very top floor and as we were up on the top floor. We heard the door open and think, oh, there's no way to get out of here. So I heard from downstairs hello, hello. We walked down and I just had this big smile on my face really a little naive, I guess and this man just looked very surprised and he said this is my house. He was like oh my gosh, your house is so beautiful. He goes what are your names? I said Amy and Randy Ramsey. And Randy later told me he goes, you never give your name. I'm like OK, ok, so anyway, we're. And he looked again he goes this is my house. Like what are you doing in here? Just a little bit more.

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We're on the stairwell going down and are unable to exit because of where he was standing near the front door, like they were on the second part of the stairwell. We were on the third floor, headed down to the first floor to leave, and it's like okay, well, it's so awkward, so awkward. Let me tell you what the wife said, who wasn't as nice. She said and you can leave. It was very matter of fact. I was like yes, we're going to leave.

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And we hopped out that door. We grabbed our bicycles. Oh my gosh, I pedaled so fast. I was so humiliated. That was so embarrassing. And the slim, slim, slim chance that you're listening. You are the owners of that house and you're listening to the pod, this podcast episode. I'm very, very sorry, I'm very sorry.

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We went inside your house and I'm pretty sure you guys probably put a no trespassing sign up on the door or put locks on your door, as you probably should. Anyway, I just wanted to say, oh my gosh, that was. It was so hilarious and so embarrassing and it just was what it was. But that lady was very clear, you can leave, which just got me to thinking about how unwanted thoughts and stinking thinking trespass into our minds, into our hearts, into our souls, just like my husband and I trespassed into that house, like we just walk right in there like it was, you know ours right, and that's the same thing that stinking thinking does to us, but it sabotages us. How many times have you thought to yourself you had some unwanted thoughts, or you didn't even. You're not even aware of what you were thinking, but you're feeling small, you're feeling like you need to play a little bit smaller, or you're like struggling with any type of self-confidence and self-doubts kicking you in the pants, and that's when that you know that stinking thinking is making its way back into your mind.

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And part of the work that we have to do is three things I want to share with you from this story that I shared just a moment ago. But for you to move forward in your life and forward with I like to call it needle movers, for you to have some real needle needle movers, you really want to create a mental no trespassing sign in your mind. Number one, number one is always that awareness piece. Number one is write that down. It always starts with awareness. You can't change what you're not aware of, so we have to get off of automatic pilot. However, number one, if you will, is install an alarm system like have up the no trespassing sign, be aware of what's going on.

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You have to be alert to these thoughts that are taking over, the thoughts that are right now. They're subconscious to you. You're not even aware of them. So you've got to take before you can take these thoughts captive, you've got to know what they are Like before you can do the work to get rid of them. You've got to know what they are and if that thought were to come knocking on your door and say, yeah, you're too stupid to do this, you shouldn't do this. You could be like that lady, you've got to go, you got to get on out of here, right? So start thinking about your thoughts. That's number one. Number two is you've got to enforce some boundaries and understand what this is doing to you. And when I say enforce the boundaries, what do I mean? I mean? Speak the truth. What is the truth? The truth is God's word. The truth is that there's so much more to your potential and that you are made for more, and that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. The more you understand how you're created in God's image, it really helps you to show up at a different way and understand what thoughts are not serving you. Maybe you're like me.

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Part of my story is I was in a very abusive marriage. Part of my story is I was in a very abusive marriage and after it was over, I walked away believing that I was less than and not enough, because I had been divorced. But then the lies that had been spoken over me for so, so, so long, I believed them. I believed them that I just wasn't good enough, I wasn't smart enough, the mean things that were said to me. I internalized it and I believed it as truth. It was my truth and, as the Bible says, as a man thinketh in your heart, it's true. It's true for you. What you think about yourself is so true.

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So really be aware and enforce boundaries, meaning like, take that thought and decide, determine it. Is this like in God's image? Is this true If I'm creating God's image? Is it true that I'm not smart enough? Is it true that I'm not good enough? Is it true that I'm too old? Is it true that I'm too fat? Is it true that I that there's not a good plan for my life? Like when we really start to assess um, um and determine Now, speak the truth.

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Listen, that lady said you can leave. She was bold. She was like get that HG double hockey sticks out of here. There was very clear what to do. We had to leave.

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So speak the word, say it out loud, reject the lies. That's not who you are. Sure, you've made some mistakes, but that mistake doesn't define you. That's not what God says, and you don't have to entertain every thought that comes in. You get to have that boundary around that. And I'm just going to keep this pretty short today.

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And the third thing that I want to say. So the first thing is is number one install your alarm system. Number two enforce boundaries. And number three well, how do we start to make this more of a habit in our life? Right Is we are going to wire the welcome path. What do I mean by that Is neuroplasticity.

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Neuroplasticity is the ability for your brain to change, but you got to do this with repetition. The more you rehearse the truth, the stronger the neural pathways become. Every time you replace the lie with God's truth, you're literally rewiring your brain. How cool is that? That is like the coolest thing ever. I hope that that just lights you up. Do you know that you get to rewire your brain, hardwire your brain for success, and that's how we renew our minds and we become transformed. That Romans 12 too Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Do not conform to the patterns of the world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

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This takes work, and when I started to learn about this in late 2019, I was on my own journey of personal development at that point and I was encountering successes, but then I was really held back by fear, doubt, insecurity, and I just didn't know how to overcome it and I knew what the scripture said. But, boy, I had a hard time relating that and just making that really clear in my brain. But when I started to learn about this and neuroplasticity and that I could actually choose my thoughts. So here's the deal you can choose your thoughts. Not only that, you can actually emotionally regulate yourself too. You can choose your emotions. This is so powerful, this is so game changer.

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So just as I started my story and my husband and I were trespassing in a house and we were told very clearly get out. You get to do the same thing with your thoughts and you, you, the more that we can sit into. I am fearfully made. I am wonderfully made. God has a plan for me. His plan is good for me. God is chasing, his love is chasing after me. He wants me to succeed. He wants me to thrive in my life. God wants you to thrive. I want you to say that out loud. God wants me to thrive in this life. John 10, 10 says I came to give you life and abundant life.

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You have to do this work in your brain. If you are stuck in some stinking thinking, let me just tell you do the work, do the work. It is so worth it. Um, I teach a lot of this in my walk worthy mentorship. I teach a lot of this neuroplasticity and neuroscience and my coaching. So, um, I w you can check the show notes. Uh, I have a mentorship called walk worthy. We'd love to invite you in there, um, but here's the thing regardless, you are worth it.

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This day is a gift and the only way that you're going to change and make some progress in this is that, if you do, if you change, if you do this, work, so be aware, work, so be aware, be aware of those of your stinking thinking, repeat the truth of the matter and then, with repetition, rewire that brain for success. All right, this one was short and sweet. Would love to know if you enjoyed it and what you're going to take away from this and that you're going to do the work, to do the work, do the work, do the work, do the work. All right, my friend. Well, thank you for being here, as always, I am so grateful for you and if you found value in this, if you would please share this podcast. All right, see you next time. Bye-bye, for now.